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Divorce & Your Mortgage: 24 Home Financing Questions Answered

Written by Contour Mortgage | May 6, 2025 1:00:00 PM

Divorce brings emotional and financial challenges—and figuring out what happens to your home and mortgage is one of the biggest. 

At Contour Mortgage, we’ve helped thousands of clients navigate divorce mortgage solutions since 1993. In this guide, we answer the most common questions we hear from people navigating home financing after divorce so you can make informed decisions with confidence.

Key Takeaways

Navigate the complexities of mortgages during divorce with these essential insights.

Key Takeaways for Mortgage and Divorce

  • If your name is on the mortgage, you're still financially responsible—even if the divorce decree says otherwise.
  • Refinancing is usually the best way to remove your ex from the mortgage and access equity for a buyout.
  • Mortgage assumptions are possible with certain loans (such as FHA or VA), but approval is rare and often difficult.
  • Alimony and child support can help you qualify, but lenders require 6–12 months of payment history and proof of continuation.
  • Owelty liens may allow you to access more equity than a standard cash-out refinance, especially in states like Texas.
  • A quitclaim deed transfers ownership, but it does not remove you from mortgage liability.
  • The wording in your divorce decree can make or break your ability to refinance—review it with both your attorney and mortgage advisor.

Mortgage Responsibility

If your name is on the mortgage, you're still financially responsible—even if the divorce decree says otherwise.

Refinancing Benefits

Refinancing is usually the best way to remove your ex from the mortgage and access equity for a buyout.

Mortgage Assumptions

Mortgage assumptions are possible with certain loans (like FHA or VA), but approval is rare and often difficult.

Alimony & Child Support

Alimony and child support can help you qualify, but lenders require 6–12 months of payment history and proof of continuation.

Divorce Decree Wording

The wording in your divorce decree can make or break your ability to refinance—review it with both your attorney and mortgage advisor.

Quitclaim Deed Limits

A quitclaim deed transfers ownership, but it does not remove you from mortgage liability.

 

Mortgage Basics During Divorce

1. Can both spouses stay on the mortgage after divorce?

Quick Answer: Yes, it's possible, but generally not recommended.

While you can technically keep both names on the mortgage after divorce, this arrangement poses significant risks.

If your ex-spouse misses payments, your credit score will suffer damage, even if your divorce decree states they're responsible for payments. Mortgage lenders aren't bound by divorce agreements, so they'll hold both borrowers accountable for the debt.

If keeping both names on the mortgage is temporarily necessary, protect yourself with detailed documentation in your divorce agreement about payment responsibilities, consequences for missed payments, and a clear timeline for eventual refinancing.

2. Do I have to refinance the mortgage if I keep the house?

Quick Answer: While not automatically required by law, it's often legally mandated in your divorce decree and usually the best option for financial protection.

Refinancing is typically the cleanest and safest solution when one spouse keeps the home. Refinancing accomplishes two critical things: It removes the departing spouse from financial responsibility for the loan, and can provide cash to pay the departing spouse their share of equity.

Your divorce decree may specifically require refinancing within a set timeframe—often 60 to 90 days after finalization. Even without this requirement, remaining on a mortgage with an ex-spouse leaves you financially entangled and vulnerable to credit damage from missed payments.

3. What if my ex stops paying their share of the mortgage?

Quick Answer: If your name is on the mortgage, you're still fully responsible for payments regardless of what your divorce decree states.

This is one of the most common and troublesome situations we see. If your name remains on the mortgage and your ex-spouse stops making payments, the lender can (and will) come after you for payment. The lender isn't bound by your divorce decree, and late or missed payments will damage your credit score.

To protect yourself, either sell the home, refinance, or, if absolutely necessary, make the payments yourself and seek legal remedies through the court to enforce the divorce agreement.

4. Can I remove my ex from the mortgage without refinancing?

Quick Answer: Possibly, through mortgage assumption, but this option is limited and often difficult to secure.

A mortgage assumption allows you to take over the existing mortgage while removing the other borrower. However, this option is only available with certain loan types, primarily FHA, VA, and USDA loans. Conventional loans typically don't offer this option.

Even when allowed by the loan program, many lenders are cautious or impose strict approval standards. The assumption must be approved based on your income and credit standing. The process can be complex, and lenders often resist or impose additional hurdles even for eligible loans, making refinancing the more reliable option in most cases.

Qualifying for a New Mortgage After Divorce

5. Will alimony or child support help me qualify for a mortgage?

Quick Answer: Yes, but lenders have specific requirements for counting this income.

Lenders can count alimony and child support as qualifying income, but typically require:

  • Documentation through a divorce decree or legal separation agreement
  • Proof of consistent receipt for at least six months (12 months for some loan programs)
  • Evidence that payments will continue for at least three years after the mortgage closes

The reliability and consistency of these payments are crucial for lender approval. If payments have been irregular, lenders may be hesitant to count this income toward qualification.

6. How long do I need to show income from support payments?

Quick Answer: Typically six to 12 months of receipt history, depending on the loan program.

Most conventional loans require at least six months of documented receipt history. FHA and some other government loan programs may require up to 12 months of consistent payment history.

The lender will also need to verify that these payments will continue for at least three years from the date your loan closes. This verification ensures the stability of this income source for your ability to make mortgage payments.

7. What if my credit was damaged during the divorce?

Quick Answer: You have options, but you'll need to take specific steps to rebuild or work around credit issues.

Credit damage is common during divorce, whether from joint accounts that fell behind, disputes over who pays what, or simply the financial strain of maintaining two households.

If your credit has suffered, consider:

  • Working with a credit repair specialist to address inaccuracies
  • Looking into FHA loans, which have more flexible credit requirements (minimum score of 580)
  • Exploring portfolio loans or non-QM (non-qualified mortgage) lending options
  • Adding a co-signer if possible
  • Waiting and working to improve your credit score before applying

8. Can I use a co-signer to qualify for a refinance or purchase?

Quick Answer: Yes, but with important considerations regarding responsibility and relationships.

A co-signer can help you qualify if your income or credit isn't sufficient on its own. However, this creates a significant financial responsibility for the co-signer, as they become equally liable for the mortgage.

Before pursuing this route, consider:

  • The co-signer must have good credit and sufficient income.
  • The mortgage will appear on their credit report and count against their debt-to-income ratio.
  • This arrangement creates a long-term financial entanglement.
  • Family dynamics can be complicated when money is involved.
  • Your ability to refinance later to remove the co-signer may be limited.

Keeping or Selling the Home

9. Should I try to keep the house or sell it?

Quick Answer: This decision should balance emotional considerations with financial reality.

While emotional attachment to the family home is understandable, especially with children involved, keeping the home isn't always the best financial decision.

Consider:

  • Can you genuinely afford the mortgage, taxes, insurance, and maintenance on your own?
  • Will keeping the home deplete other financial resources you might need?
  • Would starting fresh in a new space benefit your emotional healing?
  • Would the children genuinely benefit from staying, or might a fresh start be better?

Sometimes selling is the cleaner, less complicated option that provides both parties with capital to move forward independently.

10. How is home equity divided in a divorce?

Quick Answer: Equity division varies by state law and your specific agreement.

In community property states, equity acquired during marriage is typically split 50/50. In equitable distribution states, courts divide equity "fairly" but not necessarily equally, considering factors including each spouse's income, contributions to the property, and custody arrangements.

Your specific divorce agreement may outline a different arrangement. The equity calculation is generally:

Current home value - Outstanding mortgage balance = Total equity

This equity is then divided according to your agreement or court order.

11. What is a home equity buyout and how does it work?

Quick Answer: A buyout allows one spouse to keep the home by compensating the other for their equity share.

In a buyout, the spouse keeping the home pays the departing spouse for their share of equity. This typically happens through:

  • Refinancing with a loan large enough to pay off the existing mortgage plus the equity payment
  • Trading other assets of comparable value (retirement accounts, investments, etc.)
  • A combination of both approaches

For example, if your home is worth $400,000 with a $300,000 mortgage balance, there's $100,000 in equity. If split equally, the spouse keeping the home would need to provide $50,000 to the departing spouse, often through a cash-out refinance.

12. What if I can't afford to buy out my ex's share?

Quick Answer: Several alternative arrangements can work when a traditional buyout isn't feasible.

If you can't qualify for or afford a refinance large enough for a buyout, consider:

  • Deferred equity sharing: Continue joint ownership temporarily, with an agreement to sell or refinance at a specific future date.
  • Offset arrangements: Trade other assets of comparable value instead of cash.
  • Gradual buyout: Structure a payment plan where you pay your ex's equity share over time (requires careful legal documentation).
  • Co-ownership: Continue as co-owners with clear written agreements about responsibilities and eventual sale.
  • Selling the home: Sometimes the cleanest solution is to sell and divide the proceeds.

Need help deciding whether to keep or sell the home? Our mortgage experts can walk you through your options and help you understand what’s financially feasible. Reach out today. 

Refinancing & Alternatives

13. What's the difference between a cash-out refinance and rate/term refinance?

Quick Answer: The distinction affects your loan terms and how much equity you can access.

A rate/term refinance simply replaces your existing mortgage balance (potentially with a different rate or term), while a cash-out refinance allows you to borrow more than you currently owe and receive the difference in cash.

For divorce buyouts, a cash-out refinance is typically necessary to access equity for the buyout payment. However, cash-out refinances usually:

  • Have slightly higher interest rates
  • Allow access to less equity (typically limited to 80% of home value)
  • Involve stricter qualification requirements
  • May have higher closing costs

14. Can I refinance before the divorce is finalized?

Quick Answer: It's legally possible in some cases, but generally not recommended unless absolutely necessary.

While refinancing is possible if the loan is solely in one spouse's name and the title is clear, most professionals recommend waiting until after finalization.

Refinancing before finalizing your divorce can create complications:

  • The property division isn't legally established yet.
  • Temporary support amounts may change in the final decree.
  • Both spouses remain on the title unless proper deeds are executed.
  • You may not have the required documentation for lenders regarding the buyout terms.

Most mortgage professionals recommend waiting until your divorce is final to avoid documentation conflicts and ensure loan terms align with the final agreement.

15. What's an owelty lien and when would I use one?

Quick Answer: An owelty lien is a specialized tool that helps facilitate home equity division in divorce, especially valuable in Texas.

An owelty lien is a formal document that records one spouse's right to a portion of the home's equity. It's particularly valuable in Texas, where it allows divorcing homeowners to access up to 95% of the home's value for equity buyouts (versus the standard 80% limit for cash-out refinancing).

The process works like this:

  • The divorce decree establishes the equity division and buyout amount.
  • An owelty lien for this amount is recorded against the property.
  • The spouse keeping the home refinances, with the lien being paid from the loan proceeds.

This approach can enable access to more equity and better loan terms—especially in Texas, where owelty liens are treated differently for underwriting purposes. In other states, results may vary, as most states don't treat owelty liens as separate from cash-out for underwriting purposes.

16. Are there other ways to fund a buyout besides refinancing?

Quick Answer: Yes, several alternative funding methods exist, each with distinct advantages and disadvantages.

Alternative buyout funding methods include:

  • Home equity loans/HELOCs: Keep your existing mortgage and add a second loan for the buyout amount, potentially preserving a favorable interest rate on your primary mortgage.
  • Personal loans: Unsecured loans may work for smaller buyout amounts, though rates are typically higher.
  • Asset trades: Exchange other assets (retirement accounts, investments, etc.) of comparable value instead of cash.
  • Installment payments: Structure a payment plan over time with legally binding documentation.
  • Family loans: Borrow from family members at potentially more favorable terms (requires clear documentation).
  • Specialized divorce mortgage products: Some lenders offer specific loan programs designed for divorce situations with more flexible terms.

Not sure which refinance or equity option fits your situation? We’ll walk you through your options and help you find the right path forward. Reach out today for a free consultation.

Legal & Documentation Concerns

17. What language needs to be in the divorce decree for refinancing?

Quick Answer: Specific, clear language about property division, timing, and contingencies is essential.

Your divorce decree should contain detailed provisions about:

  • Who keeps the property and who departs
  • The specific equity division and buyout amount
  • The deadline for refinancing or equity payment
  • Contingency plans if refinancing isn't possible
  • Responsibility for payments until refinancing occurs
  • Who pays closing costs for the refinance
  • The requirement for the departing spouse to execute necessary documents

Having your mortgage professional review this language before finalizing your divorce can prevent serious problems with future financing.

18. How do I transfer ownership of the home legally?

Quick Answer: A properly executed deed is essential—typically a quitclaim deed in divorce situations.

The most common method is a quitclaim deed, which transfers whatever ownership interest one spouse has to the other without warranties.

This document must be:

  • Properly prepared with correct legal descriptions
  • Executed according to state requirements (notarization, witnesses)
  • Recorded with the county recorder's office

Some states or situations may call for different deed types, such as warranty deeds or special warranty deeds with owelty of partition. Consult with your attorney to determine the appropriate deed type for your situation.

19. Does transferring the deed also remove mortgage responsibility?

Quick Answer: No, deed transfer and mortgage responsibility are completely separate matters.

This is a dangerous misconception that can lead to serious financial problems. A quitclaim deed only transfers ownership rights (title) to the property. It does NOT affect who is responsible for the mortgage.

Even if you transfer your ownership interest via quitclaim deed, you remain fully liable for the mortgage if your name is on the loan. The only ways to remove mortgage responsibility are through refinancing, loan assumption (if permitted), or selling the property and paying off the loan.

20. Do I need a lawyer and a mortgage advisor—or just one?

Quick Answer: Both professionals serve different, complementary roles in the divorce home financing process.

An attorney drafts the legal documents and ensures your legal interests are protected, while a mortgage advisor (ideally one experienced with divorce situations) helps you understand financing options and requirements.

The best results come when these professionals work together. Your attorney might inadvertently include language in your decree that creates problems for financing, while your mortgage advisor might not fully understand the legal implications of certain arrangements.

Making the Right Choice

21. What questions should I ask before deciding to keep the home?

Quick Answer: Focus on financial feasibility, both short- and long-term.

Key questions to consider:

  • Can I qualify for refinancing on my own income?
  • Can I comfortably afford the total housing costs (mortgage, taxes, insurance, maintenance) on my own?
  • How will keeping the house affect my other financial goals?
  • Will I need to deplete savings or retirement assets to keep the home?
  • Is the home likely to appreciate or depreciate in the coming years?
  • Would downsizing provide financial benefits?
  • What are the tax implications of keeping versus selling?
  • How will keeping the home affect child custody arrangements?

22. What's the biggest mistake people make with home financing during divorce?

Quick Answer: Making emotional decisions rather than financial ones, often by trying to keep a home they can't afford.

We see clients make emotional decisions about keeping the family home—understandably so—without fully understanding the financial implications.

This can lead to:

  • Depleting retirement or emergency savings to keep a home
  • Being house-poor, with little cash flow for other expenses
  • Damaging credit when mortgage payments become unmanageable
  • Missing opportunities for a fresh start in a more suitable home
  • Creating ongoing financial entanglements with an ex-spouse

Take time to analyze the true costs and benefits of each option before making such a significant decision.

23. How long does the buyout/refinance process take?

Quick Answer: Typically 30-60 days after the divorce is finalized, provided all documentation is in order.

The timeline generally works like this:

  • Divorce finalization: Decree establishes property division and buyout terms
  • Deed preparation and execution: 1-2 weeks
  • Refinance application and processing: 30-45 days on average
  • Closing and funding: 1-3 days after loan approval

 

Delays can occur if:

  • The divorce decree lacks necessary language
  • The departing spouse is uncooperative with required documentation
  • Property appraisal comes in lower than expected
  • Credit or income issues arise during underwriting

24. Where can I get help with this process?

Quick Answer: Seek professionals specifically experienced with divorce-related home financing.

For the best guidance, look for:

  • Mortgage professionals with divorce experience: Some may have specialized certifications, such as Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP).
  • Family law attorneys: They understand how to structure agreements for optimal financial outcomes.
  • Divorce financial analysts: These specialists can help evaluate the long-term impact of different property division options.
  • Real estate agents with divorce experience: They understand the unique challenges of divorce property sales or buyouts.

Let Us Help You Move Forward

Navigating home financing during divorce is complex, but you don't have to figure it out alone. At Contour Mortgage, we've helped thousands of clients through this challenging transition since 1993—providing both the technical expertise and compassionate guidance needed during this difficult time.

The questions we've answered here are just the starting point. Every divorce situation is unique, with different financial circumstances, emotional considerations, and long-term goals.

Our team of mortgage experts can provide personalized guidance for your specific situation, helping you make informed decisions that protect your financial future and provide a foundation for your fresh start. Contact a home financing expert today.