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Keeping the House After Divorce: How to Buy Out Your Ex & Protect Your Financial Future

Written by Contour Mortgage | Jun 16, 2025 1:29:53 PM

The family home typically represents the largest shared asset in divorce proceedings and one of the most complex to resolve. 

While keeping the home can provide stability, buying out your ex’s share of the house and converting joint ownership to sole ownership involves specific financial and legal challenges that standard mortgage transactions don't address.

What seems straightforward—"I'll keep the house and buy you out"—involves careful property valuation, specialized mortgage qualification, and precise legal documentation. Without proper guidance, unfavorable loan terms or continued financial entanglement often result.

At Contour Mortgage, we've guided clients through home equity buyouts since 1993. This guide outlines proven strategies for successfully navigating a house buyout during divorce, from accurate property valuation to specialized financing options and critical legal considerations.

Key Takeaways

  • Equity calculation is the critical first step in any house buyout, requiring a professional appraisal to determine current market value minus mortgage balance.
  • Refinancing options vary significantly—Rate/Term refinances with equity buyout offer better terms than standard Cash-Out refinances, potentially saving thousands in interest.
  • Divorce decree wording directly impacts mortgage terms—specific language identifying the equity amount can qualify you for more favorable loan options with lower rates.
  • Qualification hurdles after divorce include demonstrating sufficient income on your own, with lenders considering alimony and child support only after specific documentation requirements.
  • Alternative solutions exist when traditional refinancing isn't feasible, including deferred buyouts, payment plans, and asset trades that can preserve homeownership.

 

Essential Terms for Home Equity Buyouts in Divorce

Equity Buyout

The process where one spouse purchases the other's ownership interest in a shared property during divorce.

Loan-to-Value Ratio (LTV)

The ratio of the mortgage amount to the appraised value of the property, expressed as a percentage.

Debt-to-Income Ratio (DTI)

The percentage of gross monthly income that goes toward paying debts, used by lenders to determine mortgage eligibility.

Rate/Term Refinance

A mortgage refinance that changes the interest rate, loan term, or both, without substantially increasing the loan amount.

Cash-Out Refinance

A refinance loan where the new mortgage amount exceeds the existing loan balance, with the difference taken as cash.

Mortgage Assumption

When one spouse agrees to take sole responsibility for the mortgage payments, maintaining the original interest rate and terms.

Section 1: Determining Home Equity Value

Getting an Accurate Home Appraisal

The foundation of any successful buyout starts with knowing exactly what the house is worth. 

Divorce negotiations based on outdated or inaccurate valuations can lead to significant financial inequities and complicated legal challenges later.

A professional appraisal objectively assesses your home's current market value. While the cost typically ranges from $300-$600, this investment prevents potentially costly disputes about the property's worth. 

Both parties should agree on the appraiser to ensure the valuation is considered fair. In contentious situations, some couples opt for multiple appraisals and average the results, or request that the court appoint an independent appraiser.

Calculating Equity

Understanding this calculation is crucial if you plan to buy out your ex’s share of the home, since the equity value determines how much you’ll need to pay or finance: 

Total Equity = Current Home Value - Outstanding Mortgage Balance - Liens

For example, if your home appraises for $400,000 and you owe $250,000 on the mortgage with no other liens, your total equity is $150,000.

However, this simple calculation can get complicated by factors such as:

  • Home improvements made during the marriage (tracked through documentation)
  • Separate property contributions to the original down payment
  • Deferred maintenance that might reduce practical equity
  • Second mortgages or HELOCs that reduce available equity

When these factors come into play, documenting the timeline and source of funds becomes crucial to establishing an equitable division.

Determining Each Spouse's Share

How equity gets divided depends largely on whether you live in a community property state or an equitable distribution state.

Community Property States: In states such as California, Texas, and Washington, marital property is typically split 50/50, meaning each spouse is entitled to half the equity accumulated during the marriage. However, portions of the equity may be considered separate property if one spouse owned the home before marriage or used inheritance funds for the down payment.

Equitable Distribution States: In the majority of states, courts divide marital property "equitably" but not necessarily equally. Factors considered include the length of the marriage, each spouse's financial situation, contributions to the home, and childcare responsibilities.

Section 2: Financing Options for Equity Buyouts

Cash-Out Refinancing

A cash-out refinance allows you to take out a new mortgage larger than your current loan balance, using the difference to pay your ex-spouse their share of the equity.

How it works: If your home is worth $400,000 with a remaining mortgage of $250,000, and you need to buy out your ex-spouse's $75,000 equity share, you would refinance for $325,000. This pays off the original $250,000 mortgage and provides $75,000 cash for the buyout.

Limitations:

  • Typically limited to 80% of the home's value (Loan-to-Value ratio)
  • Often carries higher interest rates than standard refinancing
  • May require excellent credit (typically 680+ score)
  • Must qualify based solely on your own income

Rate/Term Refinance With Equity Buyout

This lesser-known option can provide significant advantages than a standard cash-out refinance if your divorce decree is properly structured.

Key benefits:

  • Lower interest rates than cash-out refinances
  • Higher loan-to-value ratio potential (up to 95% in some cases)
  • Fewer pricing adjustments
  • More flexible qualification criteria

To qualify, your divorce settlement must explicitly state the equity buyout amount in the property section of the agreement. Without this specific language, lenders will classify the refinance as a cash-out, resulting in less favorable terms.

Home Equity Loans & HELOCs

When refinancing the primary mortgage isn't ideal—perhaps due to an existing low interest rate—a second mortgage can provide buyout funds while preserving your original loan.

Home Equity Loan

  • Fixed-rate, lump-sum loan
  • Predictable monthly payments
  • Typically available up to 85-90% combined loan-to-value

Home Equity Line of Credit (HELOC)

  • Variable-rate, flexible access to funds
  • Interest-only payment options initially
  • Revolving credit line similar to a credit card
  • At Contour Mortgage, we offer HELOCs up to 95% combined loan-to-value (CLTV), depending on the circumstances 

HELOCs allow homeowners to access equity without changing their primary mortgage's term or rate, which can be especially valuable when your existing mortgage has favorable terms. This approach preserves your primary mortgage while providing access to significantly more equity than many conventional loan options.

Alternative Solutions

When traditional financing options aren't feasible, creative alternatives can bridge the gap:

Deferred Buyout: The departing spouse maintains partial ownership until specific conditions are met, such as children graduating from high school or the home reaching a certain value. This arrangement requires careful legal structuring to protect both parties.

Payment Plan: The residing spouse makes installment payments directly to the ex-spouse over time. Without lender involvement, terms can be more flexible, but should be formally documented in the divorce agreement with consequences for non-payment.

Asset Trading: Rather than cash, other marital assets of equivalent value (retirement accounts, investments, etc.) can be exchanged for home equity. This approach requires careful valuation of all assets and consideration of tax implications.

Section 3: Legal Steps in the Buyout Process

Structuring the Divorce Decree

The language in your divorce decree directly impacts your refinancing options and costs. Working with attorneys and mortgage professionals who understand these nuances can save thousands in interest and fees.

Key elements that should be explicitly addressed in the decree include:

  • Clear identification of the property (complete address and legal description)
  • Specific equity buyout amount (exact dollar figure, not just percentage)
  • Deadline for completing the buyout (reasonable timeframe based on financing realities)
  • Contingency plans if refinancing isn't approved
  • Responsibility for property expenses during the transition period

For example, instead of stating "Spouse A will refinance and buy out Spouse B's interest in the marital home," the decree should specify: "Spouse A will refinance the marital home located at [address] and pay Spouse B $75,000 representing their equity share, to be completed within 90 days of the final divorce decree."

Title Transfer Process

Removing an ex-spouse from the property title involves specific legal documents that vary by state:

  • Quitclaim Deed: The most common method, where one spouse signs away all rights to the property. While simple and inexpensive, it offers no protections or warranties to either party.
  • Warranty Deed: Provides greater protection by guaranteeing the title is clear and defendable. This option is less common in divorce but may be preferred in complex property situations.
  • Interspousal Transfer Deed: Used in some states specifically for transfers between spouses, offering tax benefits in certain scenarios.

The deed must be properly executed, notarized, and recorded with the county recorder's office to be legally valid. Recording fees typically range from $25-$100 depending on location.

Removing Ex-Spouse From the Mortgage

While a deed transfers ownership, it doesn't affect mortgage responsibility. Lenders are not bound by divorce decrees—both parties remain liable for the loan until it's refinanced or formally assumed.

Refinancing is the most common and complete solution, creating an entirely new loan under only one spouse's name.

Mortgage Assumption is rare but possible with some loan types:

  • FHA loans have explicit assumption provisions.
  • VA loans may be assumable under certain conditions.
  • Conventional loans rarely offer assumption options.

Section 4: Challenges & Solutions

Qualifying for Financing Alone

Meeting mortgage qualification requirements on a single income presents one of the biggest challenges in divorce buyouts.

Income Considerations

  • Lenders typically require a debt-to-income ratio below 43%
  • Alimony and child support can count as income, but usually only after:
    • Documentation of at least six months of receipt
    • Proof the payments will continue for at least three years
    • Evidence of stability and timeliness of payments

Credit Impacts

Divorce often negatively affects credit scores through:

  • Joint account payment disruptions
  • Increased credit utilization due to lost income
  • New debt accumulation during separation

Special Considerations for Owelty Liens

In some states, particularly Texas, special provisions called "owelty liens" can help divorcing homeowners access more equity than standard refinancing allows.

An owelty lien:

  • Represents the departing spouse's equity interest
  • Enables refinancing above standard loan-to-value limits (up to 95%)
  • Must be properly documented in the divorce decree
  • Requires recording with county property records

While most prevalent in Texas due to state-specific homestead protection laws, similar provisions exist in other states under different terminology. Consulting with a mortgage professional familiar with divorce lending is crucial to identifying these options.

Overcoming Common Obstacles

Timing Challenges

  • Solution: Negotiate realistic timeframes in the divorce agreement based on consultation with mortgage professionals
  • Contingency Plan: Include extension provisions if refinancing takes longer than expected

Appraisal Disputes

  • Solution: Agree on the appraiser selection method in advance
  • Alternative: Multiple appraisals with an averaging mechanism

Qualification Shortfalls

  • Solution: Explore co-signers (new spouse, family member)
  • Alternative: Seller financing where the ex-spouse essentially becomes the lender

Title Problems:

  • Solution: Conduct title search before finalizing divorce
  • Remedy: Address liens, judgments, or claims before attempting refinancing

 

FAQs About Divorce House Buyouts

Making an Informed Decision

A house buyout in divorce represents a significant financial transaction with long-term implications. Making an informed decision requires balancing emotional attachment against practical financial realities.

Consider these key questions:

  • Can you truly afford the home on your own long-term?
  • Does keeping the home provide stability worth the financial stretch?
  • Would starting fresh elsewhere offer better financial and emotional outcomes?
  • Have you explored all available financing options?

Whatever you decide, working with experienced professionals—from divorce attorneys who understand mortgage implications to lending specialists familiar with equity buyouts—can mean the difference between a successful transition and years of financial stress.

At Contour Mortgage, we’ve helped thousands of clients navigate divorce-related home buyouts with clarity, confidence, and care. Whether you're exploring your options or ready to move forward, we're here to help you protect what matters most.

Take the next step: Connect with a mortgage specialist and find out what’s possible.